The Roots of Sincere Connection
Friendship should feel like the warmest, coziest blanket on the stormiest night. It should make your heart feel full, not leave you questioning if you’re enough. But sometimes, doubt sneaks in, and you start wondering: is this real, or is it just someone going through the motions?
If you were only being friends with me for the sake of pityness, I appreciate your sympathy and thank you for having an empathy to me. But, please leave if you’re not sincerely. I rather losing you than needed to accept that you never felt I’m worth it.
It’s a tough pill to swallow, isn’t it? No one wants to feel like they’re someone else’s obligation. No one wants to be the person someone keeps around just because they feel bad. It’s like the saying, don’t clutch at straws in a sinking ship.
I’d rather watch you sail away than pretend we’re both okay while I’m drowning in doubt.
“Sincerity is the foundation of true friendship.”
That saying rings true. If you’re here, I want it to be because you truly ‘want’ to be here, not because you feel like you ‘have’ to be.
- I want your laughter to come from a real place of joy, not just politeness.
- I want your presence to feel like sunlight after a long, cold winter—not a raincloud hanging overhead.
Friendship should be like a garden.
- You don’t plant seeds out of guilt; you nurture them because you genuinely want to see them grow. And like any garden, sometimes you have to let go of what doesn’t belong so the rest can thrive.
I’d rather have one flower that blooms beautifully than a whole patch of weeds.
And you know what? I’m okay with that. It’s not always easy, but life isn’t about holding onto people who only see a small part of who you are.
As the saying goes, “it’s better to be alone than in bad company.” I’d rather walk alone than feel lonelier with someone who isn’t really there for me.
Here’s the truth: I want friends who truly see me. I want people who know my quirks, my flaws, and my dreams, and stick around not despite them, but because of them.
If that’s not you, that’s okay. I’ll thank you for the time we shared and gently close that chapter. Because I’m learning that my worth isn’t about how many people stay, but about the love I give myself and the people who value me as I am.
“True friends are like stars; you don’t always see them, but you know they’re there.”
- That’s the kind of friendship I’m looking for—friends who shine even in the darkest nights, who bring light into my world without me having to ask. And maybe one day, I’ll find them. Or maybe, they’ll find me.
Until then, I’ll keep tending my own garden. I’ll keep pruning, watering, and waiting for the flowers that are meant to stay. And if letting you go is part of that process, I’ll do it—not out of anger or spite, but out of love. Love for myself, and for the kind of friendship I truly deserve.
Again, if you’re only my friend because of the pity inside of you, please leave. I’d rather to lose you than feeling like I’m never worth it.
